Free discovery
What do you actually want?
Not what you ought to want. Not what sounds sensible when somebody asks. Not the first respectable answer that arrives.
If you already know what needs attention, go straight to it. This is for the more irritating situation where the answer itself is unclear.
Start here
Do the discovery before we explain it to death.
The point is not to manufacture a profound answer. It is to get past the automatic one long enough to notice what becomes more specific, more alive or more uncomfortable.
What keeps taking up more space in your head than you want it to?
You are not committing to a life plan. You are simply giving the real subject somewhere to appear.
01Something I keep putting off, avoiding or circling around.
02Something I keep trying to fix but cannot seem to change for long.
03Something I want, but feel strangely conflicted about wanting.
04I genuinely do not know yet. That is why I am here.
The live discovery continues from here.
Before another goal
The obvious answer is not always the useful answer.
“I need more motivation” may be true. It may also be a way of avoiding the more interesting questions.
Do you want it?Or have you simply been trying to become the person you think you should be?
What would change?Success has consequences. Some parts of us are much more interested in those consequences than in the goal itself.
What is being protected?Resistance often makes more sense once you stop assuming it is stupidity or laziness.
A useful answer is often less respectable
“I don't want this anymore” is allowed to be information.
So is “I want something I cannot yet explain”. Clarity does not always arrive wearing a five-year plan.
What Do You Actually Want?